Picture This

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. I agree that some pictures tell a story. They can certainly evoke emotion. As a former scrapbooker who has put countless hours preserving pictures, I promise you I LOVE pictures! I am that mom front and center videoing and snapping pictures at every little thing my boys do.

I recently had a  reality check about my addiction to documenting my every move. I was at a concert with my family. We were at Fenway Park, James Taylor started playing, and I was watching the stage THROUGH my phone!! About 20 minutes into the concert, my phone died. I was struck by how many times I reached for it to take a picture. I had no choice. I couldn’t. Guess what, it felt so damn freeing. I had no choice but to relax and just be in the moment.

The next day I was kind of taken aback that my observations about the night before were still occupying my thoughts. Honestly, I am the worst offender of this. I take so many pictures, I change the photos on my wall with every season.  My kids have called me the paparazzi ( and they’re only 6 and 8!).

I realized that I, we,  are missing so much of real life because we are constantly “capturing”  any and every moment we experience. We are very focused on sharing what we are doing AT ALL TIMES.

I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this. So I decided to challenge anyone who wants to join me to spend an entire day with your kids, spouse, parents, you know, your people without your phone. Does that sound scary or crazy to you? Well-that means you need to do it the most! Trust me, you will be giving yourself a gift.

Picture this, summer, mid August, kids are home from school, at each other’s throats, and I am aimlessly editing and deleting pictures on my phone. Pictures, might I add, that I haven’t printed out in years. I decide to put the technology away. All of it. done. I explain to my boys, we are just going to be together. 

Now picture this I am on the floor building legos with them. We are laughing and creating and having fun. I am not going to lie, my mind went to check facebook, take a picture, and make sure no one called or texted me more than a few times. Instead of checking it, I just stayed in the moment and we all had a great day.

Am I saying we shouldn’t have our phones on us at all times? Hell no! I am just bringing up the thought, that maybe, just maybe, we should spend less time living through the lense of our phones and more time living in the moment.



Published by tarsha benevento

I am an educator who thrives on helping others. I spent close to 15 years teaching and then as an administrator in the New York City Public School System. During that time I completed my first Masters Degree in Teaching Reading and and additional degree in administration. I currently tutor students in all subjects and grades. In addition, after completing the Parent Advocacy Class with The Federation of Children with Special Needs several years ago, I am a parent advocate. I plan to dedicate my time to helping other families of children with special needs.

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