Thursday is the New Monday 

You don’t have to wait for Monday to get yourself back on track. The universe does not care what day it is! If something fuels your soul and you know it does, don’t wait!! Do it NOW, for me that is #202020. What do you do to bring joy and magic to your soul?

So if you know me, you most likely know about my #202020 philosophy. But do you know where it came from or how I figured out that it was the key to my peace and happiness? Well I’ll tell you.

In June of 2014 I was lost. Although I had been in grief counseling for almost 4 years I was still struggling with the loss of my father and the life I had planned. That was when I experienced a sadness so profound I actually questioned the existence of God. I could not help it, the world lost the most magical spirit I’d ever known. Abby was a daughter, sister, young wife, and mother to two precious babies. She also just so happened to be my lifelong best friend. This loss was so very different than the loss of my father. This loss made me even angrier than I already was. I was detached and couldn’t seem to catch my breath. img_2206

In November of that year,  Abby’s “other” ❤️ best friend  Claire, suggested I go on a writing retreat. I didn’t hesitate. I booked it right away.

Shortly after,  I attended my first #ineedthisspark retreat in Ojai, California. It was hosted by Author of Bloom, Kelle Hampton and of course, my dear friend Claire Bidwell Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This. At the retreat we had a personal chef, Goyo, who prepared organic healthy meals for us the entire time. We did yoga, we read, and we wrote. The yoga and nutrition cleansed me of the pain and anger that had consumed me for so long. Don’t get me wrong, it didn’t make it all go away! It just allowed my mind to see clearly and focus. It was then that I realized I am happy when I read and write. Sadly, I never did those things. Instead I watched too much tv and played on social media. I mean hell, I even had candy crush on my phone back then! What a waste of time.

The writing prompts provided by Kelle and Claire evoked deep thoughts and raw emotions. Our group discussions after each writing exercise allowed time to identify with others while learning so very much about relationships and life. When they prompted us to write about who we were without  loss, without family, without career, I figured something out. I was able to identify my soul food. I had never even taken the time to ponder what I needed to find and enjoy the magic of my soul. I had always attributed happiness to external influences.

In that moment I promised myself that I would make it my business to read and write for at least 20 minutes daily. As I shared in the group discussion, the participants, my newfound spark sisters, pointed out how important the nutrition and exercise was to my mental and emotional state. Thanks to them, I also promised myself that I would drink the shakeology packets that were piling up in my cupboard and exercise for at least 20 minutes daily. Thus, my recipe to find and enjoy the magic in my life, #202020, was born. I have been working to read, write, exercise, and get the nutrients I need daily ever since.

This is important. Be purposeful with your time. Force yourself to figure out things you can do to find your magic and make YOU happy.

I am proud to say over the past year and a half I have consistently  spent time making these activities a part of my daily life. I have been writing and reading daily for the past month, however, I haven’t REALLY worked out since the beginning of August! AND I have been eating and drinking like I’m Yogi Bear getting ready to hibernate.

So what does this mean!?!? It means I have no balance. When I’m off balance I lose focus and can’t get anything accomplished. Then I get down in the dumps and stuck in a state of funk. So for me-exercising and eating right is essential. Thank the Lord as of today I am bringing the balance back!!!! I pulled out an old food plan that was very effective and I went food shopping. I’m ready to get back on track and I am not waiting another second. 

Published by tarsha benevento

I am an educator who thrives on helping others. I spent close to 15 years teaching and then as an administrator in the New York City Public School System. During that time I completed my first Masters Degree in Teaching Reading and and additional degree in administration. I currently tutor students in all subjects and grades. In addition, after completing the Parent Advocacy Class with The Federation of Children with Special Needs several years ago, I am a parent advocate. I plan to dedicate my time to helping other families of children with special needs.

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