Finding Magic-Life Lesson One: Perception is Reality

Dear Stephen and Joseph,

Your third and first grade school year is coming to an end. There is a little bit more than usual going on right now, as there usually is this time of the year. We have ice cream parties and field day mixed in with birthday celebrations and spring concerts. Then there are the baseball games and track meets and don’t forget flag football playoffs.  Oh and for a little extra on top this year we are also preparing for our Spark Friends to come and visit next week. We are training our precious puppies and rearranging some of the rooms in the house. I often wonder what that feels like to you guys. Is it exciting? annoying? exhausting? Do you even notice? Is it hard to keep going to sleep at the same time even though the sun stays up so much later now?

I can tell you what it feels like for me, it’s exciting, annoying, exhausting, and rewarding all at once. I guess that means it’s a bit overwhelming. That is often how people feel when there are so many important milestones, endings, beginnings, and changes in routines happening all at once.

During times like these we have an important decision to make. That decision is about the most simple and slightest of all detail. A detail that hangs in the balance and carries with it either the weight of our happiness or our despair. The one and only thing that determines which one, is our perception.

You see, perception is reality.

It is so important that you learn this lesson!
You hold the key to the freedom of your happiness within your perception.

You can allow yourselves to be consumed by daily events and happenings, no one would fault you. It is understandable to give in to the exhaustion and throw your hands up in frustration because things are over scheduled for one reason or another.
I mean who really wants to drive to the next town over for a playgroup on the same day you have sports? So you have to leave early, eat a sandwich in the car, get dropped off at dinner time, get picked up, get home to quickly take a shower and go to bed? It makes sense to give in to the woah’s and no’s of it all.

You know what though?

It also makes sense to just have fun and enjoy it. You can focus on the fun you have with friends in that play group. We can blast our favorite songs like; Shut Up and Dance With Me or Closer and sing together with the windows down while we eat dinner in the car on the way to sports.

The point is-happiness and fun are not things you can have, they are things you do have, right there with you, all of the time. You just have to focus on them. You will find them in the smell of the fresh cut grass, in the sound of a friend’s voice, in the taste of an ice cream cone for dinner.

It’s up to you boys. See, life is never going to slow down. So you have to decide if you are going to enjoy the ride or if you’re just going to get taken for a ride.

My advice, when in doubt, close your eyes, breathe, and blast those tunes……and enjoy the ride.

I love you more than the moon, more than the stars, more than even mars….

infinity times infinity


Published by tarsha benevento

I am an educator who thrives on helping others. I spent close to 15 years teaching and then as an administrator in the New York City Public School System. During that time I completed my first Masters Degree in Teaching Reading and and additional degree in administration. I currently tutor students in all subjects and grades. In addition, after completing the Parent Advocacy Class with The Federation of Children with Special Needs several years ago, I am a parent advocate. I plan to dedicate my time to helping other families of children with special needs.

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