The Cultivation of Courage Series

Lesson One: Let Them Fail

Now more than ever our children need us to model courage and witness us standing up for what is right. We must do this even when it is painful or difficult, especially then. We need to ask questions when we’re not sure and challenge things we don’t believe to be true.

As usual, Sarah Boyd is spot on! It has always been a struggle to teach our children to avoid the trappings of choosing the easy way out. To be a leader who stands up for what is right no matter the cost isn’t in fashion during those elementary and teenage years.

This generation has access to more information than ever before. So often they lack the maturity or knowledge required to process it. This leaves them vulnerable to accept things as they are, avoiding the risk of embarrassment and ridicule. They need to see us living as lifelong learners, actively challenging things and witness our ability to be vulnerable when we are unsure.

Might I add this type of parenting is not for the faint of heart. It requires a relentless commitment to choosing what is right and letting them fail. We can not swoop in and fix things. We can not rescue them.

The act of standing tall and firm while our children are in pain, struggling to overcome defeat and face their fears requires our courage.

They must fail!

Facing failure or injustice and working through resulting emotions provides an opportunity to develop the bravery needed to overcome it. The process is essential! Allowing my children to sit with that pain has been the most painfully necessary piece of my motherhood journey thus far.

I’ll tell you what through, my courage game is on point! 😉

Published by tarsha benevento

I am an educator who thrives on helping others. I spent close to 15 years teaching and then as an administrator in the New York City Public School System. During that time I completed my first Masters Degree in Teaching Reading and and additional degree in administration. I currently tutor students in all subjects and grades. In addition, after completing the Parent Advocacy Class with The Federation of Children with Special Needs several years ago, I am a parent advocate. I plan to dedicate my time to helping other families of children with special needs.

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